Helping or Holding Back? How Attachment Shapes Emotion Regulation of Others in Close and Distant Relationships

We examined how adult attachment orientations relate to the strategies people use to regu-late others’ emotions (extrinsic emotion regulation) across two studies. In Study 1 (N = 218), participants reported their use of eight strategies (e.g., valuing, receptive listening, humour, distraction, downward comparison, expressive suppression) alongside measures of attach-ment anxiety and avoidance. Anxious attachment was associated with greater use of high-involvement strategies - particularly valuing, listening, and direct action. Avoidant attach-ment was associated with lower use of these supportive strategies. Neither dimension was significantly associated with low-involvement, distancing strategies. Study 2 (N = 201) test-ed whether attachment effects varied by relationship closeness (romantic partner vs. ac-quaintance). Participants reported greater use of supportive strategies with romantic part-ners. Attachment avoidance predicted lower engagement across both contexts. Attachment anxiety predicted greater support use overall, but anxious individuals were especially likely to use receptive listening with acquaintances. Together, the findings suggest that attachment insecurity shapes interpersonal emotion regulation: anxiously attached individuals are active but possibly strategic regulators, while avoidant individuals disengage regardless of context. These patterns may influence how emotional support is provided and received in close rela-tionships. We discuss implications for attachment theory and interpersonal emotion regula-tion, and identify directions for future research.